I’ve mentioned Garfinkel before on this blog, in relation to old Chicken Bone Man and the extreme porn. (And for the geeky among you, here is a lovely conference paper about Garfinkel, space and the achievement of the ordinary.) I used to think having a dude like LB was like having a permanent little rule breacher. Now I’m beginning to think a bit differently.
I’m starting to think of learning disabled/autistic peeps more as unlikely ethnographers than rule breachers. Unlikely ethnographers of normality.
Here’s an example.
LB said he’d wait in the car when I needed to get some milk the other day. I rushed into the shop, bought the milk and walked back across the car park towards the car. I could see LB in the back of the car looking my way. I waved to him. Nothing. I did an even bigger wave. Nothing. I waved like I was in the audience greeting the return of Nelson Mandela from Robben Island. Not a movement. He just watched me.
“LB, next time I wave at you, can you wave back at me?” I asked, exasperated, when I opened the car door.
“Why Mum?” he asked.