Time is passing slowly. It feels as though we’ve been living this half life forever now. No one has had a bath since last Wednesday. I’m not sure I ever will. We’re wandering around bumping into memories present in every inch of our house. The pain is indescribable. But our grief is disrupted by officialdom.
LB is now badged a SIRI. Jargon haunts him even after his death. Why the fucking crapshite do the NHS/Social Services use so much jargon???
A SIRI is a Serious Incident Requiring Investigation which may generate media interest. Eh? What about the poor buggars whose ‘serious incidents’ aren’t likely to generate media attention? I don’t understand what difference it should make to the NHS if the ‘serious incident’ may generate media attention or not. Does it mean they pay extra attention to their (internal) investigation? Is there less (or more) likely to be a cover up? Is a head honcho dashing to take their suit to the dry cleaners, ready to make some bland, meaningless rote statement on some steps somewhere? Is the Trust busily smartening up the outside of the unit in case it gets papped?
Well they are right about this terrible, devastating, happening generating interest. It has generated shock, horror, sadness and rage among so many people we’re overwhelmed. This collective feeling has, in turn, generated offers of support and hardcore advice and information. LB would be delighted that the legal team is kicking in at last.
Just not about filling the dishwasher, sadly.
mydaftlife 
Erm! Is an SIRI (Serious Incident Requiring Investigation)the new name for an SUI (Serious Untoward Incident) Has SUI been replaced? What about CIR (Critical Incident Review) RCA (Root Cause Analysis). NHS has a tendency to change names of whats not working…..includes regulators, hospitals & whole wards sometimes!! Then “gone…no longer there”…….as the Meercat says “simples”!
BTW if Trust are holding an inquiry/investigation/review…make sure you formally agree the Terms of Reference (ToR)for this. ToR is where the devil hides the detail!
Truth much easier to remember and will demand its hearing! Hold on xxx
I think you should assume more of a cover up, and more jargon. I suspect that both of us could guess at the script in advance. I also imagine that rage is both a help and unbearable right now, and that Hold on is the only thing that makes sense.
I read your Tweet today. The idea that my daughter is happy in her own way and loved is what I hang on to when fear of the future overwhelms – and it is in the end what matters. Hold on to that, when the pain abates it will be what brings you comfort.. You are right about the support – everyone who hears about this feels for your pain and outrage.
It is hurting me to breathe just reading about this. I can’t begin to imagine how much worse it must be for you.
And now to hear your funny, offbeat, brilliant boy labelled an ‘incident’…. he is so NOT incidental. Yesterday didn’t seem possible to feel more enraged over what happened to LB… and today it is. If there is anything helpful that a complete stranger can do – you’ve got it.
it will be a cover up with a report full of red herrings – they will be more interested in trying to deflect attention from the indecent, they will not go in for reflection and responsibility…you have the power of the media use it – Carve LB’s name with pride – let everyone know what has happened because there will be no fairness in this investigation there never is.
I send you love and solidarity – ”Go get them”
De-lurking briefly to say I’m so, so sorry for your unimaginable loss. However much flack they end up taking for this, and I hope it’s *lots*, they deserve a thousandfold more. Best wishes.