Ok, here’s the rub. You’ve bought tickets to see a show in London (a costa-del-armandleg jobby). Three rows in front, a young geezer does impressions of the gorilla, Bolo, from the Mighty Boosh in a very loud voice every few minutes*. The person next to him makes a show of saying “Shhhhhhhhh”, but this is more to appease the increasingly irritated people around them, than any expectation that he’ll watch the show quietly.
So, should they leave so that everyone else rest can watch the show in peace?
Or should the audience relax their expectations?
I’m having a think about this today because it’s discussed by some bod from the Ambassador Theatre Group (click here).
All very complicated in some ways. In others, less so. What are we really talking about here?
Every now again, you might go somewhere, or do something, and someone else present changes the experience you thought you might have.
Blimey. That happens to me every other time I step outside the house (some tosspot goes through a red light, or talks at the top of their voice on their mobile, or parks in a disabled bay, or the bus driver doesn’t stop or.. or……..)
Trouble is, rule breaching (like blowing all the candles out at a Carol by Candlight concert**) creates a collective wave of disapproval that is like a tsunami for the parents/carers of the little rule breaker.
This bowls parents off their feet, they withdraw, retreat and stop taking their kids to places. Problem solved.
Except that it’s all unspoken and invisible. And with nasty consequences.
So I’m going to throw a random suggestion into the pot;
1. Everyone readjusts their expectations a bit and accepts that every so often, someone might add something to their activity that may or may not enhance it.
2. Explicitly separate spaces are created (same as child-free holidays) for those people who seriously can’t risk this happening. Not quite sure of the terminology here but something like *Crazy-dude free*.
That way we all know where we stand.
* This is one of many, many examples.
*I couldn’t resist this example from my arsenal of examples of unacceptable crazy-dude behaviour – just not LB this time.