I came across this letter sent to some disability activists by an Oxon County Council commissioner again today. Took my breath away. Again. A vicious and ill informed assault. Why?

I’ve been repeatedly vilified as LB’s mum. By senior (white, middle class) people who should not be working anywhere near health and social care. To save their own backs. Their salaries. Their status. Their fakery around their sense of who they are… In a sustained and nasty way.

Just one section of the commissioner’s letter:

[Here’s one of the posts I wrote a week or so before LB died: Am I mainstream now, Mum?  [Howl]]

Have to say, if any OCC or Sloven staff member wants to suggest to my face that I was ‘reluctant to have LB back’ I’ll not be responsible for my actions. I loved that boy more than life itself. We all did. And always will. He was the family rule breaker. The comedian. The gentle and funny guide to different ways of living and being, with a wisdom we didn’t always recognise.

He was a fucking school boy…

Can you begin to imagine what it must be like to read the above extract? From a letter leaked to you a year or so after it’s written and circulated to who? To know you are being bad mouthed in all sorts of NHS/social care circles because some jumped up Trust, whose eyes were bigger than their bellies, were able to feed off a weak Oxon joint commissioning set up. Take over the Ridgeway. Leave it to fester…And your child drowns alone, locked in a bathroom, as an outcome?

Don’t you ever suggest I was reluctant to have LB back. If you do, have the guts to say it to me. Not circulate it in sneaky, sordid communications among NHS/LA corridors and wider. And to anyone who receives such tripe in their everyday work…. You can always call it out, you know. Shake off the stupidity, malaise and laziness and recognise/acknowledge that families aren’t the beasts they are painted to be.

As Tom, 16, said;  “When a mother tells you she’s sure her son’s had a seizure, he has.”

You stupid, self serving, arrogant, barbaric fuckers.